How many times have you tried quitting?

Ive been into ballbusting since I was around 13, and I think from day one its always been a fetish Ive tried to get rid of, but 13 years later here I am still. When did you finally learn to accept this is part of you rather than trying to suppress it?

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Permalink Reply by volcan51 on March 8, 2021 at 6:47pm

If it make you feel better some marketing dude analyzed cultural codes on US and get that the code word for sex is violence.

Going deeper why to feel desire for violence with your couple? infinite reasons, but in a general terms at least on that way its kind of normal. Not like woman felt like weirdos for liking the 50 shades

A valid point its that bb its bad for your health so it is smoking and no big deal right?

I suspect your question goes on the reputation side or arc? what if everyone know about it?

the answer its

who cares?

to me its just guys dont really have any reputation to keep. Specially on these times so much bad press for guys. At least to me its like its all about woman what they want, what happens with them, or why whatever its been discussed it has to be somehow approved for woman, I even feel like that has always been the case.

So To me at least the main advantage of all this its as a guy you just can't fall lower so

why just not enjoy what you want? that its how i see it

Pd: really dont want to offend anyone its just how i see the stuff and why i just try to enjoy the most i can without remorse.

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Permalink Reply by Lexeme on March 9, 2021 at 1:09am

When I was a kid being a masochist was by default a mental illness. The DSM-V removed most if not all of that completely in 2013. I hope eventually attitudes in kink communities can catch up with this because there's so much stigma tossed around that is discredited in more recent literature I've read

I always accepted CBT, I've been into it as long as I can remember so there's nothing to compare to before.

I was just more scared of getting caught. Mental health stigma aside my community was super fundie and anti sex. But of course, everyone was totally fine with violence. I'm infinitely more disgusted with all of that than I am with a few of us finding ways to flip the usual scripts because we/our brains/ get off on pain.