Does age play a factor in your decision to bust a guy??

[greg m]

I totally get it when you bust for fun but would there ever be a time when you might stop and think that maybe the guy is to young or to old to bust?

[Hans]

Teens are often playing quite rough. And as long it's not too hard, it's the way young people interact. I got busted by several girls in school, but never considered it as pure violence. It's often the case, that the boys started to tease girls there, so they got busted. And usually, both can laugh about it afterwards. So what?

Btw, I'm talking about the usual playful stuff, not brutal busting where somebody gets really injured.

[Chris C]

It would depend on the particulars of the situation, I guess.  If you are talking about young children that don't know better, then I would say it is wrong, but they should be corrected and have it explained to them.  And if they are siblings, well siblings will be siblings, but as a parent I would still put a stop to it.  If they are old enough to know what they are doing, then yes, it is violence.  Possibly sexual assault, but that gets into more details about psychology and law than I am comfortable making.  Great as a fantasy, but in reality I would consider it violence.

[Smack My Nuts]

I would generally go with a definition of violence which looks something like "the use of force with the intention of causing pain or harm to the other party".  So, yes, I would count it as violence.  The nut tap is generally intended to hurt, so it's violence.

That said, I don't necessarily think that violence is always unacceptable.  Violence comes in a lot of forms and in our society it's sometimes acceptable.  Obviously, there's immediate self-defense.  But even beyond that, I don't even think that it's always unacceptable to respond violently to harmful or inappropriate speech.  Taunting and verbal bullying can be just as harmful as physical violence and I'm not always opposed to responding to them with violence in the extreme cases.  Like most things, it's all a matter of degrees.

Also, playful violence is not uncommon and usually not harmful.  Boys often try to hurt each other as a means of bonding and competing.  Likewise, boys snapping girls bra snaps or pulling pony tails or pinching butts is a form of violence, but it's meant to be playful or flirtatious rather than create actual injury.  If engaged in continually and especially targeting one individual, it can be harmful, but as long as it's mutual, I think that playful violence is normal and healthy (although it should generally be stopped when one party does not want to participate).  So, in general, I wouldn't worry about a young girl giving a young guy a kick in the balls unless it seems like they're doing it so hard that injury is likely (balls are pretty tough) or unless they seem to be bullying.

[Eric]

Jumping on this thread finally because why not..

I think it technically should be considered an act of violence, but generally isn't. Any form of physical "assault" is, in essence, a violent act, and kicking a dude in the sack is undoubtedly in that category. Despite that, though, there is definitely a stigma around nut shots where for some fucked up reason people generally don't seem to take it as seriously as say, a punch in the face or pushing somebody down. Which is a pretty comically backwards way to think considering the groin is so much more sensitive to pain.

Separately, think of if a woman randomly kicked a dude in the nuts out of nowhere in a very public place. I'm positive that passerby's would first go to the woman who did the kicking and make sure she's okay from the guy now crippled and rolling on the ground lol. Not exactly related directly to the question but I think it's an interesting example to consider when exploring the stigma around nut shots as an act of violence or assault.

[Rooomer]

It's obviously violence on some level, just like smacking someone in the back of the head (though a bit more painful).  I think it really depends on context. 

Randomly hitting someone in the groin is not cool at all. But play wrestling, it happens -- and has to me.  She won that round after her knee got me.  But again, it's all about context -- viciously attacking someone's genitals, even when wrestling shouldn't happen.  Maybe if you want to go for the balls, you should be ok with some friendly return fire :)

[Beth]

I appreciate everybodys replies the past few days hoping theres more to come. Id like us all to be more outgoing and more active on this site. It makes things so much more fun! Lol

This was messaged to me by a member who wished to be annonymous:

yes it's violence. But at a young age we can't really grasp the concept of violence and let's just be honest, a kick to the balls is a lot different than say a punch in the face. Now that is ironic considering a kick in the nuts is far worse than a punch in the face for a boy, it's completely debilitating and will make him helpless and additionally when it's a girl kicking it's so embarrassing. But I don't see girls kicking boys around the same age when younger, as violence, it's more a learning lesson in life and it happens out of curiosity. It's just something the girls know they can do to hurt us and hurts us a lot, but they aren't really thinking about violence, just that it's funny to kick us where it hurts and see us roll on the ground.

[Beth]

Thank you Logan for participating!!

Very good point too!

[Allen Witts]

I guess like... you really don't see girls physically bullying guys much.  So I think ball kicking  with young people tends to be more either in defense or as a prank.  Is it proper, should it happen?  Probably not.  But at the end of the day, it's really not the end of the world.  

With regards to activity: I totally agree!  Unsurprisingly, the site tends to be a lot more active when there are girls who chat a lot online, but there are also guys who tend to chat/engage a lot- Smoo, Eric, 2swollen, and a few others come to mind.  It's always interesting to talk about things, share experiences!

[mike smith]

I think it's violence and kids should learn that it's wrong.  Kids do lots of mean stuff because they are imature.  I don't see it the same as consensual S&M play or self-defense.

[Beth]

I didnt post this forum i just commented on it. The guy who made it is named greg m.