MEN!!! Stop being a mouse about Ballbusting and take control.

[dvhour (Site Owner)]

I am Dvhour, I am an alpha male who loves to get his balls kicked, kneed and stepped on. I refuse to allow a woman to grab my balls or punch them. I know what my balls can handle and I do my damndest to push it but I also know when to quit and call it a day. I am no body's slave boy, I am far from submissive but I will submit, worship or pamper the right woman if she complies to my desires and interests. I no longer allow just any gal to kick my balls. I am particular about my play mates and so should you. I say all this because its time to speak up and empower some men here. We lack education and a sense of pride in our kink.

Ballbusting guys hide waaaaay too much and its a damaging epidemic for our kink. Matter of fact Ballbusting men are some of the most isolated people in the S&M realm and it doesn't help that many circles view ballbusting as a hardcore fetish and a bit of taboo. Even female sadists who are ok with drawing blood or causing wounds on other parts of the body… these same women are often too timid to try BB out. Go figure… I do get it though  we live in a society that tells women NOT TO KICK TESTICLES. Men and women need to be aware of the risks and dangers and embrace it or don't do it. Its that simple. Hiding behind a computer is not a solution though. If you want to experience it my advice is for people to be proactive and stop acting like its something to be ashamed of. 

It bugs me that a vast grouping of guys act like mice about their balls and feel its a submissive or slave boy kink when in reality the vast majority of us, men are masochists who just love the pain and or humiliation of it. We need to start saying proudly and openly, I love ballbusting damn it!!! Too many guys have been taking up the attitude that our balls are pathetic and worthless and that we should be ashamed of them. FUCK THAT!!! There is certainly a place for that kind of thinking and there is nothing wrong with being a submissive or slave boy, but Ballbusting is not about that and it shouldn't be pigeonholed that way. I feel its my job as BB contributor to empower the men of the BB community. Remember Guys its brave as fuck to say to a woman or man "I like to be kicked in the balls, will you share this with me"… Guys there is no shame in it go out and introduce your partner or some guy or gal to our fetish but do it in a way thats fun and easy for them to digest. 

Ballbusting doesn't have to be brutal... Guys stop worrying that you are doing ballbusting wrong and stop letting these hooded and masked men in the dungeon be your role models.  Be realistic and simple at first… When asking a partner to try ballbusting with you try getting them to firmly press their knee or thigh in your crotch when you both are rolling around in bed kissing… Next time she is sitting in a chair and you are on your knees before her, have her cross her legs and kick or nudge your balls and cock gently as you admire or caress her legs and feet and look into her eyes… Or even better next time you give a woman a foot massage take her other foot and place it in your crotch, every once in a while gyrate your hips and push into her foot. Show her how sexy and sensual that feeling is too you... umm she will get the hint when she feels you growing under her foot.... This is simple stuff that no one really talks about, the sensual and sexy parts of ballbusting. We truly do need to share tips and ideas that can help elevate the IQ and sexy nature of BB. 

People like Dweezy, Damien, Knave, Joe&KAT, AW, Wutchaknoboutdat, Bronson, Lilly Longlegs and Fox and Wolf have elevated the sensibility and beauty of BB by putting content out there showing the whimsical nature and fun of BB. Some of it is brutal but the reality is its all presented in a way showcasing a human side of it. Showing that regular men and women out there can do it and have fun with it. You don't have to be in a dungeon nude hiding behind a mask. In the past three years I have been using Fetlife to meet people in my city/town who I have converted into happy ball kickers. It is pretty much RARE as hell to actually meet women who are into ballbusting I have met a small handful over the years, but I have met both dominant and submissive women who are now into it, because of how I introduced them to it. Because I put myself out there I am able to experience real BB and I would advise and encourage everyone on this site to do the same. If you guys or gals have any questions please feel free to ask or make suggestions. 

[Blondage]

Thank you!!!! I'm a female, & this is the most accurate, well-written, close-to-home post I've ever read regarding this topic. I used to think it was either dungeons and chains to satisfy my urge to bust or NOTHING, but that just isn't the case thanks to KITG!

DV you have your finger on the pulse of ME & people JUST like me. Do I enjoy BB and being in control? Hell YES!! But that doesn't mean ALL I want is a guy to crumble at my feet and beg to get off.. Not that it isn't fun once in a while but it seems in this area of our KINK - That's the only way to BB & do the dom/sub thing.. But that just isn't true. There are lots of females/males just like me, that want to explore this but don't proceed because they think its full-stop all or none. One gets abused and spit on and the other is in full control. BUT thats not the truth!! It can without a doubt be a fun 'power struggle' to say the least!

This site is the best example of OUR new breed of kink. You don't have to confine yourself to one role or the other. You CAN be that dominate, ass spanking, hair pulling, badass man AND you can take a knee to the balls from an ass kicking female. Have your cake and eat it too..  Get your balls crushed AND be respected for loving it. It doesn't make you a pussy, it makes you who you are. Explore your kink and let it evolve. It's an ever changing process of evolution.. Make it better and improve upon it. Don't confine it to a gagged, masked, stereotype whimpering on a cold tile floor somewhere. Again, Not that it isn't fun, but it's been done and there is so much more to play around with. 

This is the new ago of kink and it shouldn't be hidden or be ashamed of. It should be worn as proud as anything else you like if not more so. Think to yourself; these are just the few of us that have been brave enough to say fuck society and what is acceptable and whats not.. if there's one of me writing this - JUST IMAGINE the ones that haven't made it over that hill yet, that are teetering on the edge of fulfilling the fantasy they want to become a reality but stigma has made them think twice about being who they are. There are many of us.. I know there are lots that just haven't made that leap, but hopefully sites like these and people like @DV & @Mallory will inspire this movement. I believe we are all just a few adjustments from getting the absolute best out of our unique and HOT way of pleasing ourselves and pushing our imaginations the brink. This is only the beginning, stand with me & achieve greatness. Let's inspire males & females of all ages and race to indulge their inner most desires without hiding or feeling as if it's a bad thing. There are no rules here, we are building this from the ground up... I'm moving onward and upward (in a very sexy way I might add LOL) Knowing what you like is the easy part, letting yourself have it is another! Knowing is half the battle - the rest may be difficult to actually get but with places like this and people like this make sure you don't have to do it alone! we are with you and we walk among you. 

I'm your friend, I'm your boss, I'm your neighbor, I'm the girl you pass on your way to work everyday, I'm the person you see all the time and had no idea we share this. My point being is that YOU and I? we aren't so different. You don't know me, but know there are countless people like me. Join me and be proud.. :D Begin the uprising and enter a new age of kink. /thrilled+excited :))

[Jared]

The best male-written post I've ever read on this site.

[Johnny BB Goode]

Totaly agree Dvhour, on all aspects covered.  I also totally agree with "I don't just let any woman kick my balls".   I too have always been particular about my bust buddies, play mates, call them what you will, but in the end it's always been ME who has introduced busting to women, and not the other way around.  If they happen to be into it beforehand, that's a plus but I believe the man should introduce it to the relation, no matter what type it is.  For me, it's a thing that I SHARE with women of MY CHOICE and it can be much more fun, kinky, erotic, and intimate when it's done in this manner, for both partners alike.  In the end, they are the MAN'S BALLS and THE MEN have the final word on things. 

About the only situation I can think of that might negate the above would be a woman in a self defense and/or life threatening situation.  Any A-hole that's hurting someone else for no reason at all in any way definitely deserves to have something coming to them in return. 

[Elphaba Piper]

from a womans persective i definatley agree with everything dvhour says, i want to kick my guy friends in the balls, and if they were brave enough to admit it id just go for it. we all like strange things and you shouldn't let someone judge you on what turns you on. and this is a hard subject to admit that you enjoy have pain inflicted, but its harder for a girl because we have to admit we like inflicting pain so if guys were more open and condfident about it then so would we.

[volcan51]

I try to make my contribution trying to introduce my gf into this, no idea if I an alpha or submissive, perhaps because of this I see bb as some struggling, if she get my balls and take control over me, I would be "obligated" to submission, but it's not humiliating in because I give my best to resist it, its her triumph and no my defeat. But if I won she will end without resources (usually the groin shot it seen as the last resource for females to put a man in his place) and I would fully take her.

Great post dvd hour,  and good advices.

[KingMe]

I Love Ballbusting! Had to say it. I vote dvhour BB president. I have to agree with DV on this. The main reason I come to this site to share an interest with other people, to share stories and ask questions and hopefully answer some. So please share :) if you want be more open about who you are and what you like, this is the perfect place for it.