Awkward conversation with parents telling their daughters....

[Jared]

Margret and I were chatting earlier tonight about the conversation between her and her parents after she got in trouble for kicking the neighborhood kid in the balls for no reason other than "to do it."

She says in her profile that her parents "lectured me on the vulnerability of that area on boys" and really it just inspired her to do it more.

Can any of you girls remember specific phrases that you were told by your parents on this subject?  Did mom or dad give the lecture?   Did it seem like an awkward conversation for them?

(I'm sure some of you have the opposite details of being instructed by your parents to kick boys in the balls who bothered you.)

I'd imagine I'm not the only guy who'd like to hear how some parents of ballbuster's (thankfully) had such epic fails convincing their daughters that it was wrong to kick boys in the balls!

Jared

[Katie Page]

How to kick and squeeze YOUR balls? How so?

[Lorren]

Me and my sister never got told NOT to do it by our parents. We got a lot of 'the talk' which included boys and boy parts and and how boys had balls and how they were really sensitive, which of course we all know from tv and playground talk. They didn't specifically say not to do it or it was a bad thing, apart from one mention that it was a good way to stop a boy from pushing you around. I guess they left it up to us to decide what to do with the information. 

[BC]

This is a really interesting conversation.  Shamelessly trying to resurrect it to hear more insights on "the talk".

[DJ]

Cool thread, I hadn't read it before. I'm glad it got resurfaced. I had an interesting experience related to this topic...I was an unwilling witness and visual aid in "the talk" that my mom gave to my sister (3 yrs younger than me).

A couple things to note before I tell the story: First, my mom is awesome and I love her a lot. She isn't abusive or weird and never did anything inappropriate with or to me. I have maybe 2 or 3 stories that would barely be considered the slightest bit odd when compared to average, but A) I'm confident many people had parents who were way weirder and B) 2 or 3 tiny moments over the course of 18 years living with her does not a pattern make!  The second item to note is that "Don't hit women" was super ingrained into me by my parents. It was drilled very deeply into me that no matter what happens, you can't hit women. And so even in major blow-up fights with my sister, I never hit her.

Yet it was one of these fights where my younger sis (9sih) and I (12ish) were screaming at each other over something stupid that triggered the incident. We were yelling and I was holding a toy of some kind (might have been a super soaker I think)- point was it was one of those toys were we each had an identical one of our own. She was convinced this one was hers, and yet I knew it was mine because I had just taken it out of my room. She was screaming and pulling on it really hard and so angry, and then her grip slipped. It wasn't like I let it go and she went flying, she literally just tried to yank it out of my hands, lost hold of it, and her own yanking motion and momentum took her backwards. She was off balance and fell backwards with a crash, landing on a plastic easel that was on it's side . There was a huge crack and she essentially shattered this large square of plastic with her back. She wasn't hurt, but the fall and the noise must have scared her, because she let out this insane, blood curdling scream.

Mom came running and saw me standing there, and my sister laying on the ground on top of shattered plastic. Sister lied and wailed that I'd pushed her. And it took like 5 minutes of me adamantly arguing that I didn't and that I wouldn't ever have done that. Mom was still really pissed, but I think she had enough doubt that she wasn't going to punish either of us for the fight. Althought what happened next made me wish she had punished us instead of doing what she did...

By this point, sis is standing up across from me and mom is between us, but to the side a little. So like, turn her head a little tot he left and she's looking at sis, a little to the right, and she's looking at me. Straight ahead, she's seeing us both.  She gets a very stern, serious, calm tone and says to my sister "Your brother knows not to hurt girls. But....if he ever tries to hurt you (looks at me, then looks at her)...you should kick him between his legs. She makes eye contact with me briefly as her hand gestures toward me...right toward my groin. Her pointer finger was maybe an inch away from my left testicle and she was looking back at my sister again, this time more fully, almost as if completely turned from me and ignoring me.

I felt sooooo humiliated and embarrassed and almost like betrayed that my mom instructed my sister that way. At this point in my life, I knew I liked the idea of girls kicking balls, but hadn't experienced it. So it was just an awful and awkward moment. I think I got angry and said something like "I didn't hit her or push her. I'm leaving." and stormed off with my toy.

And since I know y'all will ask....No, actually- my sister never busted me. And she only ever tried one time, but I blocked her kick and that was that.