Straight outta the gingerbread cottage.

[Gretel Wayward]

Yo. I'm using the site a lot more lately I thought I'd give this interview thing a try like a couple of people have suggested.

I'm an unsightly submissive/switch bisexual girl who's into sadomasochism and bondage and have an open mind for most freaky stuff. Don't be afraid to ask a question, I'll let you know if it's something I'm not comfortable asking and then no harm's done. So yeah, AMA or w/e.

[Gretel Wayward]

When receiving, it's definitely the vulnerability. I love being vulnerable and I love that I can't protect myself fully. If I'm intimate with a partner who likes receiving it's much the same, but if I had a playful busting buddy then I'd love to just do it at random points and seeing the reaction when it's completely unexpected.

[Gretel Wayward]

I've never had a busting budding so I can't say I have any great ones. I've definitely seen guys get hit before but I haven't usually been the one doing it so it's not really personal.

I did used to skateboard a bit and have seen one or two guys fall on railings. Those were maybe more unexpected than they should have been.

[Rooomer]

Do you enjoy the vulnerability of others (assuming they're also into it), or is it more fun to be vulnerable yourself?

[Gretel Wayward]

Definitely prefer it for myself so far. I only like it for others vicariously, and I guess I just haven't met anybody who was into it or that I like enough. I should probably date a bit more to open up some potential doors but, yuch, dating.

[Allen Witts]

Do you prefer the same dynamic from the top or from the bottom?  In other words, do you think you'd enjoy the same things or dynamic as a bottom that you'd want as a top?  If not, what kinds of things do you think you'd like to have inflicted on you but not inflict, or visa versa?

[Gretel Wayward]

I enjoy a lot of things as a bottom that I enjoy as a top vicariously because I know what it feels like to enjoy them as a bottom, so I think it really depends on what my partner as a bottom would enjoy. As a bottom I like the idea of being used which is something I wouldn't be very keen on doing to somebody else, but if my partner was super into it then I could probably be warmed up to it.

I can't really think of anything I specifically like doing/having done to me that I wouldn't be willing to try out the other way around.

[Allen Witts]

Very interesting, thanks!

[Gretel Wayward]

Ain't no thang, TC.

[Liquid Metal]

Believe me when I tell you, most guys also like the idea of a woman using them for sex.. LOL, one of my fantasies that plays into BB, is a scenario where I am kidnapped by amazons, and the queen amazon wants me, but beats my balls and uses me, because she considers me good breeding stock, but the threat will be when she's done, she will destroy my balls.. Obviously, that one cannot be played out fully, but the whole, squeeze them super hard right when I finish in her, til I curl into a ball, would be super hot. 

I don't think you'd have a hard time finding a guy into that sort of thing. 

[Gretel Wayward]

It's not so much that I doubt other people are into it, it's just not something that interests me on its own that I'd be particularly interested in trying out. Sure, if I were in a close relationship with somebody then I'd probably try anything once.

[Andy Lee]

Hey Gretel. On the vulnerability aspect, when you're with a partner, or even just as a fantasy, does knowing that you can probably be dropped by one good strike to an intimate area make the whole vulnerability side of things that much better? I imagine if it were some kind of fight it wouldn't be hot, but in fantasy or roleplay I can imagine it would work?

[Gretel Wayward]

I like the idea of being overpowered and unable to resist whatever it is my partner wants to do with me, and I also like pain (particularly in more intimate areas). So I do like the idea of being overpowered with a strong blow, but it doesn't have to be done in that way. I guess I just like feeling vulnerable. And in pain.

I fantasise about some actually nonconsensual things but they are just there as a fantasy. My ideal relationship would be with somebody who can overpower me and has permission to do so at any time (with a safe word obviously).