is it cheating to get busted from someone else?

[Hurts!]

been with this girl for a year now and there is no way in hell I will ever tell her about my fetish in the past I have had domiantrix before I met her, my mind wants to secretly get another dominatrix because its been a year now since busted, she knows nothing about this and nothing anyone can say will make me tell her about this things are perfect their staying that way

I guess what I am saying is I need people to talk me out of getting a dom again in the future! is it cheating? I am not reaching orgasm with this I am not getting a blow job or sex just pain! so is it cheating?

[Hurts!]

Well my life has changed after this week, we are now engaged, so adding that and most of you talking me out of this that is cheating I am retirng my balls, one reason is future of having kids and 2nd it's not worth the risk now! thanks for all the replies

[3dk1tm29uk1v2]

I would seriously consider slowly adding little bits of this to your activities with her. If you try to go cold turkey, you will probably end up messing up, and doing something you regret, and she will be hurt, and all because you won't consider the possibility that she may work with you on this. 

[Witts]

I think you would know better than anyone else on this forum whether or not your girlfriend will be hurt by you spending time with a dominatrix. It doesn't seem as if you want to get a dominatrix because you stated, "I need people to talk me out of getting a dominatrix again in the future!"

That being said, whether or not it's cheating, I feel like your girlfriend might be upset at the fact you did not let her know this was something you wanted. Suppose she's open-minded or is actually also into the same things as you. Would you be upset if you found out she had a busting buddy that wasn't you? Probably.