Women of KITG: what do you want to chat about? What do you NOT want to chat about?

[Ballistic]

The M/F ratios can be grim on chat and many women must feel a besieged by requests. My guess ismany women choose to ignore random introductions but may be missing out on something rewarding for fear of letting guys in in the first place. Well, maybe you can offer us clueless guys some guidance about why you come here and what you are and aren't interested in discussing. Or whether you are not interested in hearing from random guys in the first place. Would be very interested to get some feedback from you that can help us be better KITG citizens! 

[Esther]

I am quite new here but these are my two cents to this topics. When I sign in sometimes there are a dozens of chat windows opening with "hi how are you". Ok now choose on what request you will answer... you cannot answer all because there are more windows opening. So you have to choose. But by what...? In my experience people who just say "hi" and wait for an answer are not the best conversation partners. But there are always exceptions on a rule. So if someone begins with "hi esther, my name is XXX what about a small conversation" or something like that it is a nice start and chances are good to get an answer.

I also like when people are reading my profile before they talk to me. I am into to cb and if someone says "what do you like about bb?" it shows that this guy did not view my profile. Show real interesst in the girl. Look at her profile. Try more than "hi" to connect her and chances are good to get an answer.

About what do we girls want to talk? I think this is different to each individual. But I also have an apprehension that not all female profiles here are really girls. So what and how to talk to there "lady-boys" I have no idea ;-)

Sorry for my English. It is not my native language.

[Andy Lee]

Sometimes I opt for the "safe route" when I randomly chat to someone online (especially female). I might say "Hi, how are you? Hope you don't mind me saying hello" I think half the reason because I don't wanna come across as someone who pesters someone with questions, and the other half because I don't wanna bother them if they're not up for a chat, lol.

Maybe I should make it less generic, but if I don't get a response, I don't follow it up. I'm always up for a chat, but I don't like the idea of constantly bothering someone who isn't up for a chat, haha. :P When I do get a response though, it's usually successful and smooth sailing from there. :)

EDIT: I also do respect when people are only into one thing. Seeing as I like both bb and cb, I can talk only bb with someone who only likes that, or only cb with someone who only likes that (and of course both with someone who likes both). But yeah, haha.

[Rooomer]

Thanks for taking the time to reply, Esther.  Like Glittl said below, it all seems kinds of basic: don't let the fact that we're anonymous (for the most part) or that we're on a site dedicated to fetishes erase the need to be respectful. There are plenty of other places on the Internet filled with assholes.  It's nice this isn't one of them.

[Esther]

Oh and I forgot: Please do not ask what bra size we have in your second sentence...!

[Ballistic]

Thanks for the replies. The fact that you have to even say this last one is a bit sad actually. But more generally, your points seem like they should be self evident. Women are people, not chatbots. You should be prepared to engage with them as intelligent beings, even on a bb site. 

[Rooomer]

I don't know whether to laugh or cry at this one...  bra size?  really?

[Rebecca Smith]

I have this experience definitely of getting more chat requests than I can do.  If someone sends me a chat request and I do not answer I hope that he is not too offended because it might not be that he did anything wrong just that I am getting too many!

the really important thing for me when someone first makes contact is that he is polite and respectful.  I like it when someone opens with "Good afternoon Rebecca, how is your day going?" or "Hello, I hope I am not bothering you. Would you like to chat?"  Just a polite intro like that makes a big difference to me, it means that you have some manners and you are probably going to be respectful and polite in chat.

Saying something like "Hey are you into bb?" is not terrible, but it's not good either.  Partly because, like Esther says, it means they did not bother to read my profile.  But also I don't like just jumping into a topic like that.  sure I am prolly on here because I feel like chatting about bb, but that does not mean that normal social conventions like greetings stop being important.  I also don't like it when a boy will just pester with question after question, not contributing to the conversation and not really talking about anything, just wanting me to narrative bb experiences.

The bottom line is that for me this is a very personal and important topic and this site is a rare safe space to talk about it, and there is no way I am going to talk to you if you come across like I am just here to give you masturbation material (and yes, sometimes that is clearly what is happening).  I want to feel like I am chatting with a human being, and I want to feel like I am being regarded as a human being.  In a way I am not really sure why this should be a problem - it's really just basic social skills.

I have to say overall that this is the best place I have found online for chatting about this kind of thing.  It is incredibly rare to have someone open a conversation with "do u have a pic?" or "whats ur bra size?"  If that does happen then of course I ignore that person.

[blackdog]

What has your bra size got to do with ballbusting, unless they are big enough to use like a hammer? Lol

[Keith]

I may be late to the party here, but im open to chatting about really whatever and i find it fun to talk to guys and gals on here alike. the things that will make me, and probably others stop responding is..

1.) saying you wish for me to bust your balls...I know, i figure all guys on here want a woman to hit them in the nuts, but i cant really do anything about that..and i have no idea what to say back to it.

2.) asking me what i would do to your balls, cyber busting is boring, especially when i have a man around that i can hit in the nuts, saying something like * i now kick you hard, feeling the crush against my foot* is so much less fun than just sneaking up on keith and doing it in real life. I usually tell people i dont do cyber busting, and then get ignored.

3) telling me your dicks hard/balls are full/balls are sore/ balls arent sore. I have no idea what to say back to that either, i usually just ignore that one too.

4.) threatening me, or telling me you could take my kick, or that i dont kick hard, or i couldnt ever kick hard enough to break your balls, It doesnt egg me on, just give me a reason to close the chat window and talk to others.

I understand guys get heated on this site, and that eventually you want a hot conversation with a woman on here, but i dont feel many women are on here just to sex chat, maybe some of us will say exciting things or you find one that wants to cyberbust, but if you are finding resistence when mentioning it, maybe back off of it. And when i say i ignore it, i just mean i dont answer back, you can always message me again with something else and ill reply, rarely do i get offended or ticked off enough to block a person, i just dont have words to say if you give me a dead end conversation.

~~~~~~~Kass~~~~~~~

[tsm89]

Well said. I've also experienced the same kind of things from other guys on this site. I don't understand why peeps get so hostile when I'm not into the cyber stuff. That being said, I've also met a handful of really cool people on here and enjoy trading experiences!