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I am not speaking for all men or women but there seems to be a big difference on how we indulge in this ballbusting fetish. Whenever I speak to the gals about BB almost none of them are into doing multiple hits to a guys balls. You ladies just want to give ONE SOLID HAAARD hit to the balls and see him squirm. To be honest I love this too but most of us guys always wonder … "well would you kick him again and again" The answer you gals usually give us is "HELL NO!!!" Actually for a while it bothered me that BB women are generally hostile about the multiple hits. Don't laugh but sometimes I get the sense when you suggest it to the gals they look at you like you are some kind of BB extremist pervert hahaha.
A Woman's Perspective
But then i started to realize something… the majority of the women into BB are into it not because of sexual reasons, but mainly because these ladies had the need to kick, knee or punch guys in the balls to protect herself or keep some dude out of her personal space… Ballbusting is an instantaneous thing when it happens, sometimes its so lightning fast that you ladies don't really think about it till later. It makes sense why you don't remember the shoes you were wearing or what his balls felt like in that instant. I think we as men fantasize in our minds that you ladies plan these ball busting attacks on guys for your own sexual pleasure. I think we as men misunderstand your connection to ballbusting thinking you see it from our point of view which is PURLY SEXUAL, and we get very frustrated when many of you gals are not as much into the fantasy & intensity aspect of BB as much as we are, again I'm not speaking for all men.
Guys, the reason why women like to do ONE HAAARD hit, may vary for each gal but the most obvious is the fact that she catches the guy off guard and literally stops him in his tracks (and preferably in the company of many onlookers); She thrives in the fact that she gives the guy such enormous pain that he is humiliated beyond belief when he writhes uncontrollably and he is physically unable to do anything about it at that moment. I TOTALLY GET IT... I GET IT!!!! YES!!! Some guys are complete jerks and they need to be put in their place. It is a complete thrill for her when she gets to assert herself in this way when she has been pressured to protect her private space. So fellas i think BB is more about power and taking control as a person and lesser about sexual control for some of these ladies. Now ladies you can prove me wrong, but this is just my assessment.
A Man's Perspective
Ladies, Its a fact that a guy's balls are the core of his sexuality… Ladies your foot, knee or hand are not the core of your sexuality. I mean you may get turned on when you hit our balls but, lets face it, its not your private area being traumatized or stimulated at that very moment. So ladies when you say we are OBSESSIVE try to be a little more understanding about our physiological difference. Ladies imagine someone stimulating your private area in some tantric taboo erotic way at the same time forcing you into violent fits of biological and emotional trauma… I think you ladies too would appear to be both terribly desirous (obsessive) as well. Also, Ladies the same thrill you get by kicking us once and dropping us … well, we get that thrill plus the added physical stimulation that goes along with it. After the pain subsides we guys want to experience that high again and again and again. Let me pose it this way... ladies how would you feel if you were in the heat of foreplay with your guy... he was stimulating your privates and got his satisfaction but left you hanging???
Lets reverse the roles… a man is physically able to orgasm once in a specific time frame, but a woman can have multiple orgasms. Ladies, we are not obsessing about BB when we ask for specific details or desire multiple hits... we we are trying to achieve multiple thrills similar to how you ladies seek to achieve multiple orgasms. My point is ladies your one thrill is enough to satisfy YOU gals but for many of us guys we desire multiple thrills and details to be satisfied. HaHa I probably sound jaded but trust me I'm not, just speaking from observation.
At any rate, I think this is a great topic to explore because I really think none of us fully comprehend the basics of each others fetish and it is my hope we can all be more understanding and constructive towards one another. I'm sure some of this could be articulated better over time, but, I kinda just came up with this theory this morning.
I totally agree on the male's perspective. :D
dvhour (Site Owner) said:I'm happy you all support my claim about the females perspective, because I personally think more men need to know this... BUT BUT what about the male perspective... no one even commented on that. Not even a simple "hmmm I never thought of it that way... or a oh wow Dv thats a shitty theory..." Its as if our male perspective is irrelevant... hmmm am I to believe that our male perspective is irrelevant and doesn't need to be discussed???
The only reason I say this is because for years males and females in the BB community have always had turbulent communication, you ladies experience it every time the first words out of a guys mouth is "a/s/l" or "please bust me" Ladies if you want behavior like this to stop its really important to understand the difference in our male BB perspectives and be more understanding instead of getting mad and dismissive try to be more proactive. Fella's if you want the women to ignore you or put you on a "guys to avoid list" I would strongly suggest you understand the difference in how you see BB versus the way she may see it. This post was for bridging understanding between the genders... I'm ready for debate :)