Is what i'm doing considered cheating?

[charles stone]

I'm curious to hear what everyone thinks about this question. Am I cheating on my wife by letting other girls bust my balls on a regular basis?

[comrade]

yes.

[Ballbuster_X]

It doesn't matter what anyone thinks about it but her... 

If she thinks it's cheating then it might as well be, the effect is the same.

Perhaps you should ask her?

[Nialll Donnelly]

If you have to ask mate.....then deep down you know something isn't right. It's not worth ruining a marriage! Always be honest

[charles stone]

I do feel guilty sometimes, sneaking around. But my need to be busted is so strong. I have talked about it with her and she will do it sometimes, but its not enough to satisfy my need to be busted. Its like an addiction at this point, its all I think about. And my domme is just so good at it.

[J S]

Dude, is an addiction really worth the trust of your wife? I mean, if she's open to the idea, you're already lucky. Maybe communicating with her about it would be a better option?

[charles stone]

I understand what you're saying, but I get tired of asking her and she doesn't come through even when she says she will. That's what drove me to a domme in the first place.

[Daniel A.]

I believe it is cheating, unless you've talked to her and she accepts that.

[Legend]

That's cheating

[charles stone]

Nobody sees it from my point of view? Whether its ballbusting, sex, etc., when you're not getting it at home, you have to look elsewhere.

[1pkfakwc9pgao]

I think most of us can understand what you're trying to say, but that doesn't make it right.

If you want sex, but your wife doesn't, do you feel it's alright for you to go out and sleep with another woman?  To me it doesn't matter if it's ballbusting, sex, or even anything that may not be sexual at all.  If you are doing something behind your wife's back, it's not right.  On top of that, I'm sure you see ballbusting as a sexual activity, therefor you are going to another woman for sexual encounters without your wife knowing.  I think anyone who is not trying to rationalize their own inappropriate behavior would view that as cheating.

I would say the healthy thing to do is to sit down with your wife and have a calm conversation about where you both are on the subject of ballbusting.  Marriage is about compromise and working things like this out between the two of you.

I would also like to add that I've followed your posts on here, and if the things you say your domme has done to your balls are true, then you are in very real danger of permanent damage and severe consequences to your health.  (this is coming from someone who has already lost a testicle due to severe ballbusting)  I think your wife has the right to know that you're involved in such a dangerous activity that can cause serious health problems, even death in extreme cases.

Of course this is all assuming that you place more value on your marriage than on your desire to be busted. 

[charles stone]

I see what all of you are saying and I do agree. I guess I was just looking for someone to tell me its ok, because I do feel guilty about it. But I can't stop it. You see, when my wife busts me, its purely sexual. She busts me just hard enough that it turns me on big time and therefore makes sex afterwards incredible. When I am with my domme its different. Then I have a beautiful girl half my age that I can submit to totally. She beats me badly, has me kissing her feet begging for mercy, and she shows no mercy at all. She leaves my balls hurting and swollen for days. That is the beating I crave, the beating my wife will not give. I understand why she won't, she doesn't want to hurt me that bad. But I need it, what else can I do?

[Daniel A.]

you can always look for professional help, i.e., a therapist or psychiatrist