Am I Cheating? Part 2

[charles stone]

Well, I had a discussion with my wife today. Turns out she hates ballbusting, never liked it, just did it to me once in a while to keep me happy. Of course I didn't tell her about the domme I've been seeing for 4 months. If my wife does not want to do it anymore, that's fine. But since she will no longer do it, I have no choice but to continue seeing my domme and any other girl that will do it to me. That's just the way it will have to be. Of course my wife would not approve but she can't have it both ways. I'll respect her choice but she can't expect me to just drop this fetish.

I had a session scheduled with my domme for this past monday but we had to reschedule for this coming monday because of the hurricane. At this session I will be getting busted by four hot, young, stiletto clad girls. How can I pass that up? If my wife wants to accept me, then she has to accept my lifestyle too. Whether she wants to be a part of it or not.

[1pkfakwc9pgao]

You say your wife can't have it both ways, but the door swings both ways, meaning you can't have it both ways either.  Sounds like your choosing ballbusting over your marriage.  as much as I enjoy ballbusting, I can't imagine giving up my wife for it.  That's your choice though, and seems to be one you've made a while ago.

Just don't be surprised when you experience major marital issues and/or the end of your marriage over this.  When she finds out (and she will at some point) it's not going to be a good day for either of you.

I just hate to see a marriage fail over something like this. 

All this is just my opinion, and I honestly do wish you the best no matter what the future may hold for you.

[Katie]

If it's harmless tell the wife and let the chips fall where they may.

[Lexeme]

Agreed, can't judge but hiding S&M from a partner could be tricky in the long term. There will be bruising, and there will probably be occasional injuries.  Also if his major urge is sated outside the relationship it will affect things there too, if things havent been affected already.

Sexual compatibility makes and breaks relationships because lots of people lose it after periods of sexual frustration, men and women alike. But fixing this is made all the harder because we know what lots of people think of fetishes.  Anyway I totally get it.  It's a tricky spot.  I personally am of the out with it and say it school, but I understand not everyone can do that.

[charles stone]

First, I want to thank you all for your honest opinions. I appreciate your input.

When I wrote my last post, it was right after a heated discussion with my wife about ballbusting. I guess that was a bad time to post anything. I have since talked to my wife again and she told me she doesn't really hate ballbusting, she hated that I pushed for it all the time. She felt like it was more important than sex to me. That is not the case, but I can see how she saw it that way. She said she would bust me a lot more if I didn't push her to. So we are good in that respect.

With that said, I still can't give up my domme. I like the way my wife busts me, but she won't hurt me bad. Sometimes I crave that really hard bust which the domme can and will deliver. She will step on them, stomp them, and I love it! I can back off on seeing the domme as much as I was, but I can't deny my urge. That wouldn't be good either. I know there are risks, I mean I have been bruised, swollen, had cuts and scrapes and I had to hide them until they healed. This is the way I have to play it.

By the way, you guys are right, any guilt I feel doesn't compare to the urges I get.